Alcoholism a Family Disease

Alcoholism a Family Disease February 14, 2020 kristian sekulic/Getty Images More in Addiction Alcohol Use Children of Alcoholics Binge Drinking Withdrawal and Relapse Drunk Driving Addictive Behaviors Drug Use Nicotine Use Coping and Recovery Alcoholism is a family disease because it affects the family as a whole and each member individually. Living with alcohol abuse means being in an unsafe environment filled with disruptions to normal routines, the tension of strained relationships, and dishonesty. The  disease of alcoholism  affects every family members life, attitude, and way of thinking perhaps more dramatically than it does for the drinker.   Although more than 10 percent of kids live with a parent who has alcohol problems, your familys situation may also involve an alcoholic teen.?? There are over 861,000 kids ages 12 to 20 who use alcohol heavily according to the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism. Alcoholism Takes Your Family by  Surprise With alcoholism, the heat is constantly being turned up, but nobody notices. Cunning and baffling! As a  progressive disease. It may start out with casually accepting unacceptable behavior.  Oh, he didnt mean that. He just had too much to drink last night. A few years down the road the behavior has slowly grown more and more  intolerable, but it is still being accepted and becomes the norm. Your family ends up with chaos in your own home that a few short years ago would have been unthinkable. If you looked out the window and saw the same kind of things taking place across the street at the neighbors house, you would probably pick up the phone and call 911 to get  those  people some help! Alcoholism and the Children Children lack positive role models in an alcoholic family and need stability to thrive. The alcoholic parent is dysfunctional. The other parent models enabling behavior and may be a victim of physical abuse. Children are sensitive to the arguments and psychological warfare going on in an alcoholics home.   One minute mom  is screaming and threatening him with everything from divorce to death. The next minute she may be compassionately rescuing him from the consequences of his latest episode by dutifully cleaning up his messes, making excuses for him and accepting an increasing degree of unacceptable behavior. Potential Impacts of Parental Alcoholism on Children The Partner As the Enabler As the alcoholic behavior escalates and becomes routine in your own home, the last thing that would occur to you is to get help. Youve been slowly drawn into the thinking that you should protect the alcoholic because you care. You cover for him, lie for him and hide the truth. You keep secrets, no matter how bad the chaos has become. Protecting him by telling lies has actually created a situation that makes it easier for him to continue (and progress) in his downward spiral. Rather than help the alcoholic, and yourself, you have actually enabled him to get worse. Are You Enabling an Addict or Alcoholic? When Will Your Loved One Get Help? The disease of alcoholism typically continues to progress until the person is ready to reach out and get help for himself. However, waiting for that to happen is not your only choice. Family members can begin to recover whether the alcoholic is still drinking or not by contacting an Al-Anon Family group, SMART Recovery Family Friends, or other outreach organization for support and advice. There is hope and help out there. You just have to take the first step. 8 Steps to Organizing an Alcoholic Intervention